before i forget, my grandmother also said this "i got paid for house work, with a home, furnture, spending money.."

that made her sound like she was taken care of, so i asked if she felt subjacated, and she said no, he was never home."

she also blames feminism on rising divorces, and thinks the nuclear family is the most stable...so grain of salt time, but it lead me to think was her marriage, the one that lasted 46 yrs, a mercancy arrangement, where both knew the cost ?