my dad is fucked up, beyond help, and unwilling to change himself, he is living in sqaulor, he is sick both phyiscally and mentally, and one of the reasons i left to go out east, is that living near him meant that i was stuck in the qaugmire. i no longer want him in my life, i no longer want him anywhere near me.

but mom does, and so i have to negioite ever subtly, and mom needs his company, so the question is, how do you work the middle, how do you avoid dad and not piss off mom. (breaking my moms heart is the worst thing i can do, my dad being proud of me, is take or leave)