spencer and megan's house, and spencer giving me permission to be the patriach, and sitting with this homosocial group, and having complicated theological conversations with crc's and also about anglicans as their kids are wandering around, and all of this with this cooked hospitality, and this encourangment to be included, and this refusal of estrangement--and then driving to new market, with two kids in the back and talking with the crc pastor about country and metal and kids and calvin and theology and sex

it was one of the queerest, and most joyous and strangest and most welcoming places i have ever been