From Laura Kipnis' The Female Thing, mostly a retread, but she is an excellent polemicist, and esp. the chapter on housework is a sustained blast against conventional wisdom on all sides. (Her chapter on Rape, entitled Vulnerability, isone of the more difficult calls to honesty about the issue)

...Children have to be taught not to play with their own shit, and the fact that most of us have indeed renounced this early pleasure is one index of just how effective bodily socialization is...our thresholds of disgust about such bodily matters have risen exponentially with sanitation advances, making our bodies even more dirty as a civilization marches on...neurosis is civilizations trade off for improvements in personal hygiene: we smell better, we have fewer gastric ailments, but we fret about it all far more... (91)

...Perhaps the shape of the problem begins to come into focus:the household and the body stand in for each other at some not entirely conscious level. But here's the complication:wouldn't scrubbing away at unwelcome feelings also serve the dual purpose of confirming them? Can you scrub away an existential condition... (102)

...What exactly is it about dirt that keeps impeding sexual harmony between men and women? And why the constant accusation mode: one sex somehow more polluted then the other; one sex always offending or sullying or reprimanding the other? (Though occasionally the charge is that someone isnt dirty enough; the accusation of sexual prudishness, usually aimed at a female, though once in a while at an undersexed man.)
Classicist and poet Anne Carson summarizes the dilemma rather elegantly in an essay on the theme of women and dirt in antiquity:"As members of human society, perhaps the most difficult task we face daily is that of touching one another--whether the touch is physical, moral, emotional or imaginary. Contact is crisis"...
(104/5)

(about second wave feminism) Liberal feminists focused on rights based themes like equal pay, fighting discrimination, and reproductive freedom, while radical fminsits seized on the old social-purity motifs: namely, the preoccupation with men;s dirtiness, from their failure to share the housework to their sexual dirtiness, There were distressing new scourges to combat: not germs, but "the objectification of women" (Dirty minded"), the pornography plague (filth), even sex jokes at work came in for sanitation. For some reason, female reformism just keeps returning to the theme of dirt, male cleansing of one sort of another is the fundamental demand...
(113)

If you are a chick, you're sitting on some pretty valuable real estate. Is any other human body cavity quite so laden with symbolic value, not to mention actual monetary worth, particularly for exclusive access? Fathers once traded their virgin daughters for bride payments; non virgins were handed over at reduced rates. Even today, play your cards right and a vagina can mean all sorts of social rewards. Just about everywhere on earth, right of entry to the revered female cooze...can still command wads of cash or cash equivalents, even for non-professionals. Pricey dinners, diamond rings...in what other system of exchange can you trade exclusive access to an orifice for a suburban split-level and a life time of monetary support? Not such a bad deal, considering he back breaking and alienated things a lot of people end up doing for money..(123)

An Old Freud Joke:
Sigmund: Anna, altough I am yuor father, as part of your eduation I must show you my penis so you understand certain fundamental concepts. Now , do you see the difference between the penis and the phallus?
Anna: Yes, Father. The penis is like the phallus, only much smaller
(148)